Walking on Eggshells
We’re all connected to each other through a network of conversation. Relationships are built, commitments are made, possibilities are explored and action is coordinated through conversation.
From this perspective it makes sense to hone our conversational skills . . . especially as it relates to difficult situations.
Perhaps we have said or done something that offends someone else. Or we may feel offended or hurt. Either way, a difficult conversation is on the horizon if we want to stay connected with this person.
Yet we often seek avoidance. Why? Because we’re scared. Scared that this person won’t like us anymore, scared that we’ll say something wrong, scared that feelings will be hurt. We fear all of these real or imagined consequences. But continuing to walk on eggshells in order to avoid confronting issues adds immeasurable stress to our lives.
The solution is to practice these difficult conversations so they become easier for us to have.
Tips
Start with the end in mind by having a clear vision of the desired outcome.
Take the time to understand the other person’s perspective of the problem before starting the discussion.
Lay the groundwork by asking permission to talk; i.e., “May we talk about X?” or “May I share something with you that upset me?”
Stay connected to their perspective and world view even when you don’t want to.
Difficult conversations may be a process, not an event. But relationships that rupture and mend are far stronger than relationships that require walking on eggshells.
